Caring for the Shepherds

ANDY FRUDD, PASTOR, GRACE FIRST FELLOWSHIP, DEWITTVILLE, NY

Sheep. I own three of them. Once you own one you understand why they are used by God to represent his relationship with us. Shepherding can be frustrating and time consuming. My sheep are pretty much completely dependent upon me. I feed and water them, provide shelter and protect them from themselves and other potential dangers. I spend a great deal of time with my sheep. But there is a problem with the relationship I have with my sheep. It’s one sided! My sheep never reciprocate the care I give them. As a matter of fact their allegiance would quickly change to someone else if need be. I’ve never heard one of them ask what I might need or how they might come up alongside me.

Sadly many pastors have experienced the same phenomena in the church. They provide spiritual food, care and protection for their flock but often find that their relationships are a one sided. Recently I asked an individual what they needed from their pastor. The answer could be summed up, “I expect them to be there when and where I need them.” When I followed up with, “Do you think that is the expectation of every one of the 100 people in your church?” The answer was, “Probably.” So I asked a third question, “Who should your pastor expect to meet his needs?” The answer was, “I guess I’ve never thought about my pastor having needs.” Sounds like my sheep. Pastors have needs. They are every bit as human as anyone else and sometimes they get disappointed, frustrated, tired, wounded, hungry, and even angry.

I recently had the pleasure of attending a CCCC Community Pastors training event in Bemus Point NY. What I experienced was not only refreshing and uplifting, but also unique in nature. I applaud our Conference for walking their talk. They believe that healthy pastors can help build healthy churches. They live out their belief that too many pastors have been left to fend for themselves, often having to choose between healing and employment. They are taking an active role in providing help for their pastors by encouraging and developing ways for their pastors to be in community with one another. Having the ability to get alongside like-minded people involved in similar activities offers much needed insight, encouragement, mentoring and most importantly prayer. Being able to share and celebrate the victories, mourn the losses, and work through the tough moments gives real help and healing for our pastors. It was encouraging to see the CCCC President and Conference Minister taking an active role in the training I received.

As a hobby farmer I find great value in talking with other farmers. As we chat I learn new things, am reminded of old things I’ve learned but am failing to apply, and I’m able to share my limited knowledge with them. I encourage our pastors to do the same. Make time to learn some new things, allow yourself to be reminded of some old truths, and share what you’ve learned with others. Find time to make investment in yourself and your ministry.

For those benefitting from a pastor/shepherd take a moment to invest in them. Encourage your pastor to take the time to attend a CCCC Community Pastors Event. Remember that the best shepherds are the ones that have all they need. As King David found out the hard way, the best leaders are the ones who are where they are supposed to be, doing what they are supposed to do. Let’s help our pastors be where and what they are supposed to be.